Our Chapter, Destiny’s Journey, is doing the agenda series on happiness this cycle. The actual title of the series of series is “Happiness: Enhancing our Happiness and the Happiness of Those Around Us.” Originally, this title called to me because while we are always seeking happiness, I am not always clear as to what happiness really is. Is it a destination? A blip in time? Must there be laughter and excitement? Is it joy? Or can it be a quiet contentment? I am coming to believe that happiness means different things to different people at different times.
One thing that I am learning is that all of the above can be true. I am also learning that I am responsible for my own happiness. It is not about what happens to me or to the world around me, but what I make of it, what I do about it and how I feel about it.
In today’s world with the coronavirus forcing us to separate and isolate, it is clear to me that I get to choose my level of happiness. I can be very sad about not seeing my friends and family, not gathering in our program with hugs and physical connection. Or… I can reframe this to see the opportunities for happiness within the experience.
• Because I am home more, I get the opportunity to spend more time with my daughter.
• Because I am home more, I get to experiment with cooking and create some “new” meals for us.
• I get to learn new ways to communicate with my family, it makes me happy to face time with my parents in Florida to really see how they are doing.
• I get to “see” more women than ever in our connection zoom calls without leaving my home.
• I get to create opportunities for women to connect and support each other.
• I get to learn a new skill as a “Zoomer.”
• I get to have a Zoom seder with more extended family together than would be possible if we were sitting around a table.
Through this experience, I am really learning that I get to choose to be happy. And I get to choose this over and over and over again. I am so grateful for the Family of Women for giving me the tools to find happiness in our changing world. I found a quote which illustrates this to me. “Seeking happiness outside ourselves is like waiting for sunshine in a cave facing north” ~~ unknown
~Submitted by Laura G., Massachusetts