I had an interaction with another woman that I didn’t handle as well as I could have. For three years following that incident, I made up in my mind that she did something wrong first, so what I did after was okay.
When I was being interviewed in the Family of Women to become a trainer for Leadership Training, one of the questions was, “Is there anything you need to clean up with another woman?” I knew immediately what I needed to do.
I spent time thinking about what I wanted to say to this woman. I called her, we spoke openly and honestly with each other, and more importantly listened to each other. What I learned from this experience is that I made stuff up to protect myself, and robbed myself of three years of relationship with this women.
That was 19 years ago, and to this day this woman and I are very close. The Family of Women held me accountable to cleaning up an unresolved relationship and this lesson has made a huge difference in my life.