I had an interaction with another woman that I didn’t handle as well as I could have. For three years following that incident, I made up in my mind that she did something wrong first, so what I did after was okay. When I was being interviewed to be a leader of leadership training, one of the questions was, “Is there anything you need to clean up with another woman?” I knew immediately what I needed to do. So I spent time thinking about what I wanted to say to this woman. I called her and we talked it out. That was 19 years ago, and to this day she and I are very close. Being held accountable in the Family of Women has made a huge difference in my life.
In my 27-year relationship with my husband, the women have helped me tremendously to be a successful and loving wife. I have three examples of this. They each happened a long time ago and will always stay with me.
I called a woman to complain about something my husband did. When I was done, she started laughing and said to me, “You need to get a bigger problem.”
Another time I called a woman to tell her I wanted my husband to do something differently. She said to me, “Just because your husband doesn’t love you the way you want him to doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you with all his heart.”
Another example, I was talking to a woman about my husband and she said to me, “Do you realize you have made your husband wrong and he hasn’t even done anything yet?”
So many things came to light for me about my relationship skills, or lack thereof, when these conversations took place. These women were able to support me to change my context in an instant. That tool of being able to change my context at any given moment, is a gift for me in all of my relationships. The gift of having women in my life who tell me the truth is priceless. That is one of the greatest gifts that comes from being in the Family of Women.
– Connie I., California